Break My Heart
Quick 2-minute read
If your parents are divorced, I'm going to guess that you may have decided NEVER to marry. You don't want to get married because you're afraid you'll get divorced. Am I right?
Let me give you another option. Instead of missing out on living a longer life, being more financially stable, plus a healthier life, why don't you change the path and get off the wide road to destruction that most traveled along that helped cause divorce? Yes, people who are married do live longer. They are financially more stable. They are also healthier; maybe the biggest difference is they're happier. Over the past five decades, 50 plus years, the surveys remain the same—three times as many people who are married as compared to not being married are happier, healthier, and more financially stable. You're surprised.
So if you choose to get married, you'll want to stay married and not get divorced. Then don't practice getting divorced. Dating is practicing for Divorce—unless you are one of the few who date only one person. One of my 3 brothers met his wife when he was only 14, and they were happily married until "death" did they part. By the way, did you know that dating is relatively new? Before the idea of dating, most marriages were arranged marriages; they were arranged by their parents, who knew who they needed and who their child, the one they loved, deserved. The couple often doesn't meet their husband or wife until the day they married or possibly once before. It still goes on today in many countries and some religions. Want proof? Let's look at the statistics:
At least 50% of first marriages end in divorce, and 80% of second marriages end in divorce! But in arranged marriages, divorce is only 4%, which means almost all arranged marriages stay married. True, not everyone who stays married is in a "happy" marriage, but most have to be. I believe it's because when you date and break up, it's like a mini-divorce, so you come to the marriage fractured, damaged, and part of your heart has been given away. Some young people are devastated when they break up, and I would guess you know this to be true: they no longer want to live. Why oh why put yourself through this torture when you can simply wait? Exactly so, because it's not simple or easy to wait—especially if you don't train yourself in the beauty and experience the superpower of waiting!
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So, what do you think? Does this change how you look at marriage and dating? What do your friends and family think? You'll get plenty of opinions. That's why you might want to ponder, wait and hide what you've just learned in your heart until you read ALL the many, many promises built on marriage and also waiting.
I definitely want to share this with my 16 year old daughter. She has never dated as l have spoken to her about the pitfalls of dating but this is really great to give her more insight. For me it was really devastating because my parents divorced and when l went through my marriage struggles the fear really set in because there are various family members divorced too. Praise my Husband for healing me and restoring my marriage. In todays modern society l notice young people are not getting married, they either live together or they date for years which leads to the mini divorce mentioned 😕 the other opinion that l have heard is dont get married because it only leads to divorce… But this is also due to not waiting for the right person that He has in mind for you.
This is something that really needs to be shared! It is so important for our young ladies to understand! As Erin points out, dating and breaking up are like mini-divorces and you suffer for someone that is not your spouse!
Our youth should be directed to Him! So their Heavenly Husband is the only one that could be in charge of choosing the right partner for them.