"Weighing Pros & Cons"
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Do you know what the word chaste means? Since it’s a word no one really uses anymore, most women haven’t a clue. Even the word respectful has been changed to mean the opposite of what this powerful promise once meant. Nevertheless, God’s Word is timeless, so if you search for the truth, “seek and you will find” (Matthew 7:7),  if you take time to uncover hidden treasures that are buried and bring them to light, you will change not only your life but also the lives of everyone around you.

The title of this chapter, “Chaste and Respectful,” originates from a book of the Bible that Peter, a close friend of your Savior and mine, wrote. He’s encouraging women how to deal with their husbands, which was not by nagging or tricking or any number of other ways wives try to get what they may want and often simply need. No, like every other promise and principle, it’s the opposite of our human nature, which, by following, even embracing, unleashes superpowers. It’s how to win a husband’s heart by witnessing his wife, who is chaste and respectful. Interestingly too, this promise works with all authority.

So, let me ask you: If being chaste and respectful is the way God our Father and our Creator say wives are designed to be to get the most out of their marriage, doesn’t it make sense to know what both these characteristics of the sort of wife are? Peter goes on to say this kind of woman “is precious in the sight of God.” 

Unfortunately, developing "Chaste and Respectful" behavior, as I said, doesn’t come naturally. So, because we want a quick fix and for things to happen quickly, we often give up just as quickly. It’s why most diets either don’t work or cause damage (or even death) because we want to drop excess weight in a matter of days rather than the many weeks it took to add the weight. In the same way, excellent qualities, “An excellent woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds” (Proverbs 31:10-31), do not develop overnight, which is why, as A Wise Woman in Waiting, you are blessed because you have plenty of time to practice and gain the benefits long before you marry.

If you decide to wait until you are interested in getting married, by then, it’ll be much more difficult to learn them, and you’ll also suffer the consequences most of the women who search for HopeAtLast are desperate to fix after their husbands walk out or they discover they’re cheating.

More and more marriages end within the very first year, which is probably why you may have decided to never marry. But before you choose to live a shorter and more uneventful, most often a horribly lonely life that the feminists have lied about for decades, why not explore your future and keep an open mind? As I once told my oldest son, who told me continually he would never marry, “Once you find the right person, you’ll think differently.” That’s exactly what happened. After he met God’s choice for him, he married and has been living happily for more than a decade; he and his wife are actually one of the closest and happiest couples I’ve ever known.

Okay, then, are you with me? Are you interested, while you are still single and unmarried, to find out the benefits of being chaste and respectful? No matter what, it’s just another way God has planned to lift you high on the Rock that will withstand the storms ahead whether you marry or not.