But You, O Lord, abide forever, And Your name to all generations. P10212
Dear mothers,
It started so beautifully!
I still remember how grateful I was for my FH that a son was born to us. He was so looking forward to sharing things with his son and also hoped that they would have the same interests.
My son is very similar in character and appearance to his father, only his blond hair and blue eyes are from me. Their interests are also similar.
They have a good relationship with each other and my son really sees his father as an example.
But something shocking happened!
It is difficult to see the consequences of a divorce in the contact with the children and their parents. Because of the divorce, my son only sees his father 2-3 weekends a month. It touches my heart that, in going through a divorce, children are always the victims, because they no longer have a father/mother around them every day. It especially touches me that I am to blame for that myself.
If my son wants to saw or carpenter something, I do not have the skills to teach him this. My son loves to fish and still needs help with that but I don't know much about fishing. At times like these I feel how unnatural it is when a father is not with his children every day to teach them the things that a father can teach best.
I am so thankful that we in this ministry learn that our children need a Heavenly Father! Just as I enjoy the unconditional love and daily closeness of my Heavenly Husband, my son enjoys the unconditional love and daily closeness of his Heavenly Father. I believe with all my heart that He will also be the Father of my son, because He promises that in Psalm 72:17
May His Name endure forever; May His Name increase as long as the sun shines; And let men bless themselves by Him; Let all nations call him blessed. P7217
Dear mother trust in this promise and ask Him to guide you in the upbringing of your children. He will bless your children and plant His Name in their lives!
Beste Hanna, dank je wel voor de bemoediging. Ik kan begrijpen wat je voelt en verdrietig maakt. Althans het maakt mij soms verdrietig als ik denk aan de scheiding die ik heb veroorzaakt waardoor mijn drie jongens nu twee weken in de maand zonder hun vader doorbrengen. Na mijn scheiding heb ik veel geleerd over de rol van de moeder en de vader. De moeder die de zorg en leerzame dingen uitvoert binnenshuis en de vader die de zonen leert hoe ze de beschermer en voorziener kunnen zijn van het gezin. Toen ik net gescheiden was waren ze nog heel jong. Een knuffel en lieve woorden van mij vonden ze geweldig maar nu dat ze steeds groter worden, echte jonge mannen voel ik mij soms schuldig omdat ik niet weet wat ik ze moet leren om een goede man te worden. Natuurlijk vinden ze het nog steeds fijn om de fysieke aandacht te krijgen. Toch worsteI ik soms met de gedachte hoeveel mijn jongens zullen missen nu dat ze niet opgroeien tussen een moeder en vader in een huis. Ik ben daarom ook zeer blij dat ik mijn Hemelse Geliefde heb om mij te leiden en mijn tranen te drogen als ik het gevoel heb dat ik het niet kan en mijzelf vind falen als moeder. Ik weet de toekomst is Hem bekend en alles wat er gebeurt is ten goede van mij en mijn kinderen. Dat is de belofte waar ik aan vasthou.
Psalm 127:3-4 : Zie, kinderen zijn het eigendom van de HEERE, de vrucht van de schoot is Zijn beloning. Zoals pijlen in de hand van een held, zo zijn de zonen, ontvangen in de jeugd.
Dear Hanna, thank you for the encouragement. I can understand what you feel and what makes you sad. At least it makes me sad sometimes when I think about the separation I caused, which means that my three boys now spend two weeks a month without their father. After my divorce I learned a lot about the role of the mother and the father. The mother who takes care of and does the educational things in the house and the father who teaches the sons how to be the protector and provider of the family. When I was just divorced they were still very young. They loved a hug and kind words from me, but now that they are growing up, real young men, I sometimes feel guilty because I don’t know what to teach them to become a good man. Of course they still like to get the physical attention. Yet I sometimes struggle with the thought of how much my boys will miss now that they are not growing up between a mother and father in a house. I am therefore very happy that I have my Heavenly Beloved to guide me and dry my tears when I feel like I can’t do it and see myself as a failure as a mother. I know the future is known to Him and everything that happens is for the good of me and my children. That is the promise I hold on to.
Psalm 127:3-4 : Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD; the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows in the hand of a mighty man, so are children taken in one’s youth.