Hello Brides, I want to share how surprised I was this weekend. I was told some good things about my kids that I did not know.
I have been training my girls (ages 11&9) to help me in the kitchen. To find joy in this, it is what The Lord wants us to do, to take care of the family in this way. It is a blessing not a chore.
They help with some meals and the clean up. Wiping the table before and after dinner, wiping counters and stove, putting dishes away, sweeping and mopping, chopping veggies and my 11 yr old will help me on the stove sometimes. I try to make it a learning and bonding experience. Sometimes with praise music on and we sing together or they talk to me about school and friends.
Sometimes they are not in the mood to do things and I see that not-so-willing attitude. But I guess that is to be expanded sometimes. I do address it right at that moment and they usually will work on changing their countenance, body language and attitude. It’s discouraging to me as their mother, that I feel I’m not motivating them after all or training them well enough.
But this weekend my niece told me a story about when my daughters went to play at their house with her sons (ages 11&8). She said that she was making dinner and my 11 yr old daughter walked in and offered to help her. She told her no she can go play. My daughter kept asking if she could help with this or do that for her. She kept saying no thank you, you can go play, I got it. My daughter then said this didn’t feel right to her. It didn’t feel right hat she was not helping in the kitchen with dinner.
Then on another occasion my niece asked her son (also age 11) to change the laundry from the washer to the dryer and start the dryer. He had several excuses saying he didn’t know how, he couldn’t do it and so on. She said she was trying to explain to him how and he kept saying he didn’t know what to do. My daughter finally said “you can’t change the laundry over?!? Oh my! Come here. Let’s go do it. I will show you how.” She went and showed him how and also how to turn on their dryer. A dryer that she has never used before. My niece was surprised by these things and it stood out to her.
I was so very happy to hear this. This really made my heart melt. I just knew at that moment My Beloved is working in our children. Sometimes it may seem slow progress or seem that they just don’t want to do these things or we are not training our kids like we should be doing but in the end we are instilling into their soul these life lessons, life skills that are being woven into the fiber of their character as they become the people their Heavenly Father meant them to be. We may not see the fruits of our labor right away but the time will come. We must keep believing in His promise.
Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it”
As they grow, these life lessons will become a part of them. And when we do what we sometimes don’t feel like doing, out of obedience to The Lord, the joy will be given to us in the end.
Ruby, your praises have encouraged me so much over the last 2 years! Thanks you for sharing so openly and diligently.
Thank you Kathy 🩷
Ruby, this is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. Let me confirm that the way that you are doing everything and seeing the fruits by the way, they are investing into others as they you’ve invested into them as their mother speaks volumes.
Let me share with you as well two things since my children are all grown with six who have married. Working in the kitchen and dining area to prepare family. Meals was some of the most enjoyable times of us being together… and I know this is true because all of them carried it into their marriages – – making their spouses VERY happy! Each has worked out what they brought into the marriage the way it works for them, for instance, my oldest son does ALL the dishes and enjoys cleaning up for his wife, who LOVES to cook everything and can’t stop praising me for raising such an amazing man. All of my sons learned to clear the table, set the table, do laundry, as well as my daughters. And when they did it for each other, they were talked to be grateful to the other for what they did.
Serving others. What you obviously taught them either by design, or as you were lead and you didn’t realize it was happening, Ruby, I also talked to my children about when they went visiting family and friends. To never sit and expect to be served but to serve because this is what brings real joy. I do know that because of the way we did things, making enjoyable, and a special time of us being together… Laughing, singing, songs, etc. like you’re doing Ruby, they continue doing this as adults because it is something PLEASANT and not a chore.
Dear, sweet, precious mothers, I am so honored to witness each of you, caring the principles and to your family and culture and you’re “world” knowing it’s going to be carried on through generations. Bottom line is, this is the way a believer, a child of God, would live their life, and we know that we and our children are epistles, a book, read by everyone. 💗💗💗💗
Thank you Erin. It is very reassuring to hear that when they are grown this will continue to be a blessing to them in their lives, marriage and their family. Sometimes this world or the enemy can make us feel we are failing or not training our kids in the right way right and make us feel guilty for the way we are doing things. Especially on the days that the children are resisting. Also for our sons, as mothers we can question often if we are doing what’s right to help them become the men they are meant to be. Thank you for sharing a glimpse of the future and for your encouragement 🩷
Praise the Lord!!! What amazing praise Ruby!!! I love the way you are taking the time to train your beautiful children!! It is a blessing to teach them how to do things around the house!! I remember I got a lot of criticism when I was teaching Bethia to cook, iron, and help with her sisters!! Now my family comes to ask me how I taught her!!
Love the way the Lord is showing the fruits of your dedication, care, and love!!!
Thank you so much for sharing!!!
Thank you Isabella. I agree, it is a blessing to train the children in the way they should go now that I know We are doing it together (with My Beloved and their Heavenly Father). Thank you for sharing how others are able to see that now and they want that too. 🩷
What a beautiful praise Ruby. When it comes to training our children my heart is filled with joy as I am so grateful to my Heavenly Husband for giving me the opportunity to train my daughter as well, and now that I am a full-time worker in the home it has been so amazing.
Thank you Ruby for this praise l have been so encouraged and also by these comments shared. My son is still very young so I excited to teach him these things too ❤️❤️🙌🙏😃